It’s become clear to me that a key aspect of my call is walk alongside women in particular as they discern what God is calling them to do, who God has created them to be and how to grow in love, compassion and grace of themselves.
My sister friends…
I can’t help but think of the statement that those things we focus the most on, speak the most about, tend to be the things we struggle with the most. That is definitely true for me, dear shadow lovers. I talk about discernment and call because those are things that I have struggled greatly with over my life. I talk about compassion, self-love and grace because I am horrible at practicing these ways of being with myself and most days I don’t believe that I am worthy of receiving them. Now don’t get me wrong, I am a work in progress, paying attention to and working on my issues. But I spend so much time walking with others because at the end of the day, I don’t wish my feelings darkness, despair and loneliness on anyone. If I could help one less person, especially one less woman, not question their worth, not struggle with their intrinsic beauty and not doubt the love that our Creator God has given freely to each and every person, then my work, my life will not have been in vain.
My sister wife Leila
I have written about the ridiculously passionate love affair that I have with my women friends. I often pray that everyone can experience the kind of freeing relationships I have with these women. There is nothing like being seen for who you really are; for being loved in spite of yourself; for being covered with compassion; for being held accountable and for always being uplifted. It’s akin to a type of bliss quite honestly, and when I am in my darkest places, these women, these sister’s walk with me, hold me, talk with me and remind me that I am not alone.
My childhood sister friend Stephanie
I’d like to propose something to you. I’d like to make a commitment to be your keeper, to be my virtual sisters’ keeper. I may never meet you. We may never cross physical paths. But I want you to know that I a committed to walking with you. I am committed to looking out for your, for having your back, for loving you, for holding you accountable and for reminding you that you are never, ever alone.
Please remember, that I am not a therapist. If you are considering harming yourself or someone else, seek help immediately. However, if you are just in need of someone to listen to you, of someone to hear your story, please contact me
. It can be totally anonymous and if you’d prefer I not respond, just let me know. Either way, I will be praying for you and sending light and love your way. Remember dear shadow lover, you are not alone.